Have you ever thought about how we can make sure we maintain a satisfying sexual life as we age? A fascinating new concept, "Sexspan," looks at just that—prolonging sexual vitality and intimacy well into older age. This framework compares sexual health to "Healthspan," emphasizing quality over quantity, and highlights its critical role in overall happiness, emotional connection, and life satisfaction.

This research identifies three key pillars for maintaining Sexspan: lifestyle choices (diet, exercise, stress management), partner health (emotional and physical connection), and hormonal balance (impacting desire, arousal, and performance). You need all three to optimize your sex life well into old age!

This week, someone asked me “Why is it that shortly after I have an orgasm, I get a big urge to have to urinate? No matter how full my bladder really is”. Here’s the explanation for that, during orgasm, the muscles in your pelvic floor, including the bladder and urethra, experience a series of intense contractions. This is normal and a natural part of the orgasmic response. However, for some people, after these contractions there is a sudden relaxation of the pelvic floor muscles which may cause a bit of a "rebound effect," where your bladder starts to signal that it needs to be emptied, even if it's not actually that full.

I love hearing from you, so if there’s a question you’ve been wanting to ask, just let me know. Who knows? Your question might be the one I dive into next!

WHAT I’VE BEEN UP TO LATELY

I had the pleasure of returning to Empowered with Gina for a conversation on a topic that many parents find challenging but essential—talking to kids about their bodies, sex, and pornography.

In this episode, Empowering Parents: Navigating 'The Talk' with Dr. Malik, I share practical advice for parents on how to approach these conversations with confidence. From teaching body autonomy to discussing how pornography affects young minds, we dive into key strategies to empower families and make these important talks feel less awkward.

Check it out and gain valuable tools to help you navigate these important discussions with your kids, watch it now on YouTube or listen to Spotify and Apple Podcast!

HIGHLIGHTS FROM MY CHANNEL

In this episode, I explore some innovative sex aids that can add fun, comfort, and variety to your intimate moments.

Quote: “When you start doing new things in the bedroom, it may not work out as well as you wanted, but that doesn’t mean that you need to give up.”

Key Takeaways:

• Items like foam positioning pillows and position support straps make sex more comfortable and sustainable for everyone.

• Tools like door jam swings and the body bouncer introduce new, dynamic positions to keep things exciting.

• Vibrators help combat fatigue and can be fun to experiment with, offering a range of possibilities for both partners.

Remember, there's no shame in using aids to make intimacy more enjoyable. Try something new and have fun!

HIGHLIGHTS FROM MY PODCAST

I had an eye-opening conversation with several experts about the California wildfires and how to protect both your physical and mental health during such disasters. This episode highlights the gravity of the situation.

“As of January 19, 2025, 200,000 people have been displaced from their homes. Over 12,000 structures have been lost, and over 40,000 acres have been burned in the California wildfires.”

Here are a few key takeaways:

• Wear an N95 mask outdoors to protect from harmful particles. Use humidifiers and nasal saline rinses at home to keep your respiratory system clear.

• Experiencing trauma from natural disasters like wildfires can lead to long-term mental health issues; seeking counseling and staying connected with loved ones can help.

• File your claims immediately and keep a detailed log of all interactions and receipts. Every bit counts when navigating this tough time.

Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or here to get essential tips on staying safe and managing recovery in the wake of a natural disaster.